It's Time to Find a Marriage-Minded Man You Can Trust

I answer that question in this episode.

Define Your Relationship Goals

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A first step to decide if you want to hang out with a man or not is to clarify what you want. If you want to be married or be in a committed relationship, be honest with yourself. Write down what you want and ask yourself what you would like your relationship life to look like in in six, twelve, or eighteen months. 

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If a man doesn’t want a relationship with you, why would you still be with him, especially if you want a man who wants to be committed? 

Are you being honest with yourself?

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Ask yourself: Am I being honest? Sometimes even if we don’t want to just hang out with a man,...

What You Don’t Need to Worry About

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You don’t need to know if he is the one you are looking for, if you want to be with him forever or if he is the most attractive man alive. Those questions can be answered later, further down the line in your relationship. Remember, relationships are built over time.

What You Should and Shouldn’t Know

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My husband knows most things about me, but there are some things that he doesn't know, such as how my single life was before I married him when I was 46. So, in this special episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I invited my husband to join me for "Fast 5." 

Clark asks me 5 questions about my life before we tied the knot to help you learn how to encourage you about attracting a trustworthy, marriage-minded man and avoid many of the common unproductive dating patterns that can keep even the best woman stuck. 

I hope you are encouraged! 

Remember that the dream that you have to love--and be loved--is possible. 

To find out if you are a good candidate for my Single Over 30 Relationship School or for 1x1 coaching, visit singleover30.net and click on "coaching" on the top menu. 

If you sometimes feel as if men are difficult to understand, then this episode is definitely for you. Today, my husband, Clark, joins me to pull back the curtain about 9 myths about men. 

Here are some of the myths that Clark is ready to clear up for you on today’s episode. Check it out! 

 1) Men don’t have body image issues like women. 

2) Men don’t feel as deeply as women. Or, men aren’t emotional.

3) All men just care about sex.

4)   Most men are commitment phobes.

5)   Guys don't tell their friends everything.

6)   Men don't like women to earn more than them.

7)   Men are intimidated by women. 

8)   Men are turned off by paying for a first date.

9)   Men don’t want to plan the first date.

To get your free, 30-minute Breakthrough Session with me, visit singleover30.net and click on the "Coaching" link on the top of the page. 

Maybe you have said to yourself or to your friends, “I always overthink.” I hear this from women all the time and I have totally been there! And, without a doubt, overthinking can be difficult and emotionally painful.  

The good news is that you really can do something about overthinking. You don’t have to feel as if you are held captive by your thoughts. 

If you can relate, and if you find yourself going into a “mental spin” when it comes to dating and relationships, then today’s Single Over 30 episode is definitely for you because I’m going to share 14 ways to stop overthinking. 

I know you’ll be encouraged! 

Dating with kids, no matter their ages, can be challenging. Whether you have kids, or a man you’re interested in has them, the decision to date after divorce or after the death of a spouse can be new and unfamiliar territory. 

If you’re considering dating with kids, I want to address some common concerns in this Single Over 30 episode and give you 13 practical tips that you can put into practice right away in your relationship. These tips aren’t just based on other people’s experience. I have lived it!

This episode is solidly rooted in my personal experience of dating—and marrying—a man with five (yes, 5!) kids, and also on what I have learned from experts who know all about blended families.

I hope you are encouraged!

Your coach, 
Shana 

Maybe you’re familiar with the old Neil Sedaka song from 1966 called “Breakin’ Up is Hard to Do.” 

If you have ever gone through a breakup, you know Mr. Sedaka’s words are true. Breaking up is anything but easy. It’s not easy if you’re the one who did the breaking up, or if you were broken up with. 

Even though breaking up isn’t easy, it can work for good—and for betterment of your future relationship—when you take time to reflect on what happened. 

In this episode of the Single Over 30 podcast, I share 16 questions to ask yourself after a breakup so that it grows you and makes you better, rather than robs from your future relationships. 

Online dating can be frustrating at times. It can make you want to swear off online dating forever. Today, I want to give you some hope and encouragement by sharing 6 online dating mistakes that women make that prevent them from meeting a great guy online. 

You want to avoid these errors so you don’t get discouraged and sabotage your online efforts.  

I hope you’re encouraged! 

You go out with a guy to dinner or for coffee. It comes time to pay and you’re conflicted. Should he pay, or should you? 

And, what if you go out with him several times? Who pays then? 

In this podcast, my husband, Clark, joins me to demystify the question, “Who should pay for the first, second, or third date?” 

And we talk about which one of us likes to eat kale. Exciting stuff! 8-) 

Who should pay on the first date?

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According to Clark, the guy should pay for the first date. You want the guy to be leading the relationship, and you want the guy to be pursuing the woman. You want to know that the guy knows how to care for a woman. Allow yourself be pampered by a man because men want to be the hero for the special woman in their lives. 

Women paying for the first date

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A woman paying for the first date emasculates the guy in a way. Certainly, don't be pressured into allowing a man to pay if...

Picture this: You’ve been connecting with a guy over text and things are going well and you’re hoping he’s going to move it to the next level by asking for a phone call, a date, or a video chat. But then. . . the whole thing just fizzles out. 

I am going to give you an awesome strategy that you can put into practice so that your conversations don’t just fall flat so you actually get the date. 

Here’s a glance at this episode:

What is “texting fizzle”?

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You've made an online connection with a guy, texting and building what feels like a good rapport over text—then the conversation fizzles out. No date. No more conversation. It just falls flat. I call this the “Texting Fizzle Effect.” 

Why do text conversations often fizzle out before singles meet? 

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To begin with, most men don’t use text the same way women do. You may have heard...