Does Love--or the Thought of Love--Make You Panic?

I don’t know much about cars, but I do know that when a blinking light comes on on the dashboard, it’s a sign that something is wrong under the hood.

Panicking while in a relationship, or at the thought of a relationship—or even when a man tries to get close to you is like one of those dashboard lights.

It’s alerting you that something is wrong “under the hood” in your heart and that perhaps some healing needs to happen so you can experience the relationship you desire.

If you can relate, don’t beat yourself up. 

When I was single, following a relationship that deeply wounded me, I started overreacting. 

When a man wanted to get close to me, I would panic.

When a relationship started to get serious or had been going on for a while, I would feel terrified.

When I started to feel emotionally vulnerable or if I really liked a guy, I would get scared. 

Panic—and fear—are important things to pay attention to because relationships ALWAYS HAPPEN inside-out. What I mean is . . . 

What happens inside of you affects what happens outside of you in your relationships.

You can even sabotage your relationships without realizing it.  

I did. 

So, if you find yourself panicking when it comes to love, it’s time to take a look at what’s going on in your heart.

Here are some questions to ask yourself.

If you answer yes to one or more of these, it's likely that you have some healing to do so you feel safe to love. 

Do you panic when a man you are interested in disappears for longer than normal?

Are you overtaken by fear when a man tries to get to know you?

Are you suspicious when a man acts like he really wants to love you?

Do you distrust everyone—or even just distrust men? (Maybe you even say, "I don't trust people.")

Are you easily offended?

Do you become angry at others who haven't done anything but be nice to you?

Do you feel love toward someone one minute, and then like you can't stand them the next?

Do you feel like you want someone to love, but then you tell yourself you don’t need anyone?

Again, if you answered yes to any of the above, it’s time to be intentional about your growth and I want to help you do that very thing so you can find a marriage-minded man you can trust. 

Don’t keep going on, hoping that things will change. Be purposeful so you can experience the relationship you desire.

With God and some extra knowledge, I was able to move past the fear that had me bound—and you can too.

In the next few weeks, I’m going to be releasing a new quiz to help you identify if you are sabotaging your relationships without realizing it—and new content to help you feel Safe to Love.

It's the very information that helped me move forward and experience the relationship I now enjoy with my husband. 

Keep your eyes on your in-box.

The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible.